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December 11, 2005


stephanie schantz


i am hostessing a parent evening for my home kindy all about discipline (including rhythm and speaking with children, the role of the parent, logical and natural consequences--what and when...)

if you have any inspirational ideas on how to make this event very lively and meaningful, please share.

thank you!

donna simmons

Hi Stephanie,

Well, one thing many leaders of Waldorf childcare initiatives do on parent evenings is to make a simple craft with the parents or do some watercolor painting. The idea is that they pretend they are the children and you the teacher - and you "teach" them as you would the children - via imitation and doing rather than instruction. You would let the story you told, the song or verse you shared carry the adults into your craft or painting circle in the same way you work with the children. And just let the adults experience what it means to enliven their imaginations and to imitate in this way - they will gain many insights into what you are doing that way!

Feel free to print out excerpts from my books or website for them as handouts - as long as you credit it to me and send them my way if they are interested, that works for me. Bear in mind that my audio downloads in the pre-k child, kindergarten, discipline etc are as relevant to parents of children who will be going to school as to those who homeschool.

Do share any other inspiration here if you like - and anyone else is most welcome to chime in!


Hello, I am a Nanny who has recently joined a family that "thinks" they want their children raised in the "Waldorf" way...I am just not sure they know what the "Waldorf Way" really is?????
The children are split between two homes and two different ways of being with the children...Mom is fun, fun, fun...as long as she can write her books....The Dad is fun but has some higher expectations in boundries and the children learning how to pick up a little and behave a bit more respectfully towards the world they need to live in...
Although I have a degree in Human Growth and Development and Child Phychology I have not been educated in Waldorf practices...(and now I am feeling the need)
From what I have learned this morning the main premis is consistancy, respect and freedom of choice...but I don't see where boundries and disapline come in??? I can tell in the short three weeks I have been working for this family that the five year old son is very sinsitive to his needs and feelings, but no one elses and has little or no respect for boundries, me or his little sister. The three year old little girl is sweet, very smart but struggles with vision and speech delays. It sometimes feels as though she has learned to exagerate her struggles to get more attention...they both compete for attention more than any of the children I have been a Nanny for in the last 20 years of being a Mother of two and a Nanny. (I expect children to compete for attention I just want them to learn positive ways to do so)
Although I have looked up several articals, each one I have read evades the issue... I am concerned that the parents have misunderstood the real Waldorf Pholosophy and just let their children do what ever they want, even at the expence of others....the real heart braker is this results in none of the other children we come across at parks and the like wanting to play with them because they push, boss the other children around. What ever the case my style of reward and conciquence has no effect and there is little support from the parents. As a Nanny I really take pride in helping the children I care for to be happy and successful in the world around them. Is there any quick answers and/or books that anyone might recomend for me and the parents.....I am writing from my families home and would be so greatful if these suggestions would be e-mailed to me at my e-mail address; kiser1331@msn.com


today my three year old locked me out of the house. He had my one year old in there with him. It was cold out, my keys were in the house. I talked calmly at first. Then I sat and I waited. I found a blanket, wrapped myself in it. I tried to explain that it was cold. I started to get a bit heated, so I banged on the door, used my stern voice. He looked at me with defiance and shook his head "No". I sat again. What can I do, there was no answer. Half an hour went by, I watched them through the window, the sat some more. I heard the baby cry, hard. Something was wrong. I couldn't see him anymore. I started to panic. I ran around the house, I couldn't see them. I could still hear the baby crying. I broke a window. I got in, and grabbed my three year old and put him in his room. Without a word. My one year old had gotten his foot stuck in an exercise machine in the storage room.

I don't know how to discipline my three year old.

Tips please

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