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February 19, 2008



Interesting article and always a thought provoking discussion within Waldorf communities.

For my eldest daughter, weaning came a few months before her thrid birthday. I cannot remember when it actually happened which tells me it was most certainly the right time for her to step from beyond the cloak.


Thank you so much for this post, I recently stopped feeding my son at the age of 3 years and 2 months, around the age of 12 to 15 months he would have quite happily walked away from it but I wasn't ready for it and then when I was ready around the age of 2 he was too attached, due to co sleeping and me been a single parent it was put in the too hard basket and therefore i have just managed to wean him and it wasn't that easy, although I haven't forced him just tried to distance myself during the times when he would want it more. Since breastfeeding stopped, he has changed, he suddenly decided it was time for toilet training, which we had been struggling with and now sleeps though the night, and is not grizzling for 'milkies' all day long. Anyway although I am not unhappy with my decision to continue to feed him, it hit home how easy it could have been earlier on. I love your blog and site.
Nicky from New Zealand


Thank you both for your comments - I am pleased to hear the experience of others!

And thank you, Nicky - glad you enjoy our work!

Nicole in South Florida

Boy am I happy for your Feb newletter!!! The timing is just perfect. We are struggling with "should we continue homeschooling" the eldest child, as well my need to wean the youngest. He will 3 in June, and co-sleeps with us (and whatever other children come during the night). But it is great to hear from others who weaned about this age successfully. Thanks.

Ros from New Zealand

Interesting article about breastfeeding. My 9 year old son was a month off turning three when he told he was a 'big boy now' and didn't need the breast anymore. My just 2 year old son who was premature and walked at 21 months is still wanting the breast. He also suffers from Post Traumatic Stress syndrome as a result of us being separated when he was born. He has panic attacks and is afraid of the dark. Separation Anxiety is something we are working on. I have recently been advised by someone well respected in Anthroposophical Medical circles here, that I should allow him to scream at night and that he should be in his own bedroom by now. I am still learning about this philosophy but this is not something I feel is the right thing for my son right now. He does not fall asleep on the breast and my instinct is to wait for my child to indicate to me when he is ready. Any thoughts ?


Dear Ros,

I am so sorry to hear that you got advice like this..... but I am equally sorry to say that I have heard this before in some anthroposophical/Waldorf quarters.... most often from anthroposophical doctors. There are some very odd ideas about making babies "too dependent" which seems to me to smack more of out dated fearful notions of what children are than considered thoughts based on true understanding of how children develop. The need for security and to form attachments is just not arguable! And if your little fellow has had an attachment trauma then I hope you will join the rest of us who know in our heart of hearts that a little fellow like yours needs his mommy - preferably in her bed all night long. Many blessings to you as you help heal your precious boy.

Malia Lynch

You mention at the end of the article that there are pointers which people can miss. I am curious as to what those are. My daughter is 17!/2 mo, and I have the intuition that she is ready, and that she needs me to guide her. We have begun by eliminating the bedtime nurse. Now we are down to 2-4 sessions during the day, or sometimes in the early morning to return to sleep, and one still before nap time, although she hasn't been falling asleep while breastfeeding at nap for a few days. Just curious what the signs might be, thanks!

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