Which is why I do not believe that one should abandon such expectationswith ones teens. After toddlers, teens need boundaries to push against more than anyone! The boundaries are obviously different - and in-depth explanation and discussion with ones teens about boundaries is enormously important whereas with a toddler life "just is as it is" , verbal discussion being positively harmful. Just as toddlers are exploring their world in their toddler-fashion, so teens are exploring their rather larger and very much scarier world. They too need boundaries - "I am sorry dear - that shirt is just too low cut to wear to the restaurant... put on a different one or put something over it." And of course, one should at the right moment then have a conversation with her about why she feels the need to display her breasts for all and sundry to observe....though probably in the middle of getting ready to go out isn't the best time!